The Queer Confidence Podcast
Want to become more confident? This show is for you. Learn tips for intimacy, dating, relationships, sex, people pleasing, boundaries, and more so you can confidently be your authentic self. Join Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they) and LGBTQIA+ guests. Visit coachalexray.com to learn more.
Episodes
131 episodes
What Are Goals Really?
Stop harming your self-esteem with goal setting.The reason goal setting feels like self-harm and not like self-love is because of why you chose to set your goals.Goal setting is not for the purpose of enjoying the accompl...
Stepping Out Of The Matrix
What if you change your mindset too much?If you are like me, you might be fearing "what will happen if I change too much? How will I be able to relate to others? Will I lose friends?"And let me just rip the bandaid off ...
Taking Risks
What is the most important ingredient for massive success?It's not knowing the right people, knowing how, or having a fail-proof plan.It's your capacity to take risks.Creating massive, blow your mind, holy-shit-am-I-...
The Progress Hangover
This is the shit no one warns you of when you head out on your self-development journey.As you make big leaps and bounds, you WILL hit a progress hangover (many of them).Listen to today's episode to understand the science behind...
Blowing Her Own Mind w/ Keila J. Brown
If your current big life goal strategy is filled with a lot of pressure, focus, planning, envisioning, basically anything but pure ease and blissful joy... may I suggest there is a much better and more effective way?My client Kei...
How To Be Iconic
What do Lady Gaga,🍆 , and my eyeshadow have in common?They're all iconic.What changes the world? Ideas.To become Iconic is to transcend to an idea.Listen now to embody your world-changing idea, and overcome...
Half-Assing It
This perfectionist obsession of yours is not helping your feel like the super talented queen of the world.It's reinforcing your insecurity!Perfectionism makes you feel worse about yourself.It allows you to keep placing t...
Deflecting Compliments
Some of you can take a load, but you can't take a compliment. What's up with that?Truth be told, it is almost impossible to take a compliment when your brain is fundamentally believing the exact opposite about you.Your brain hat...
Purpose, Trauma & Goals w/ Mike Iamele
Your purpose, your trauma, and your goals all have one commonality.Your sensitivities.Aka, the emotions/feelings that you are most sensitive to as a divine being.In today's episode, I bring on one of my coaches, Mike Iam...
Why Queerness Is Your Superpower
In today's episode, I want you to think about raising your internal, life thermostat.The objective of this episode is to start seeing your queerness as not something to be ashamed of, hidden, or dismissed, but rather something that trul...
Inner Child Labor
If you feel unable to access your creativity, or you feel afraid to show up as your full, authentic, iconic-work-of-art self, you've got an inner child sweatshop going on.And child labor is illegal for a reason!Your inner child ...
Empathy vs Compassion
Something I've noticed in our LGBTQIA+ community is that we are very empathetic.It comes from a place of love and wanting to help each other.BUT, it's actually doing more damage than it is helping.Empathy is accompanied by p...
Lovable vs Loved
If you aren't experiencing love, you try to fix it by adjusting your behavior.Which may kinda work... for a little bit.But you certainly don't feel loved when you stop being authentic to get love.In today's podcast episo...
Lessons From Arizona Part 2
“Perspective is everything.” But what does that even mean? And how do you actually change it?In today’s episode, you'll get to hear how my first official pilot lesson, teaching my cousin how to drive, and working out at a mile high alti...
Lessons From Arizona Part 1
I just got back from vacation in Arizona and I am full of unexpected lessons for you.In today's episode, I teach you how to have more compassion for your edges as you grow in your self-acceptance.And you'll find out how the heck...
Intuition
You are more intuitive than you think.Everyone is born with intuition, you've just learned to quiet it because... society.Maybe it just doesn't seem adult and logical enough.Or maybe you were silenced as a kid when you had i...
How To Be Yourself
"Be yourself" is probably the most overused inspirational phrase ever.If it were that easy, we'd all be doing it.I used to get so discouraged hearing people tell me that.Being yourself is not easy.It is the most frig...
Connecting With Your Inner Child
Contrary to what you might think, your inner child has the most significant pull in your life.They might not fully run the show, but they can put the breaks on anything you're doing that feels unsafe to them.If you want to have ...
Choosing Hard
Feeling triggered is actually an opportunity to create a safer environment for your inner child.You've got many ways you can respond when triggered, but only one thing makes you feel safe/unsafe:How you talk to your inner...
25 Beliefs
Beliefs are like lenses.They determine how you see yourself, other people, and the world.Your level of confidence is based on those beliefs.On today’s episode you’ll learn 25 beliefs that are guaranteed to boost your confid...
Trauma Responses
Do you ever have an emotional response that you know is not logical, but you just can't seem to do anything differently?For me one of those areas was money. I felt fear every time I looked at, thought about, tried to plan money....
Trauma Bonding
Do you ever feel like you can't relate to others unless you are sharing some type of trauma with them?Does it ever feel like a competition to see who is the most traumatized?When we have unprocessed trauma, we bond to it. It bec...
Being Human
Did you know you don't always have to be improving?You can actually take a breather for a minute.Today I want to simply give you permission to be human.To embrace all that is beautiful about you. AND all that is ugly about you.<...