The Queer Confidence Podcast
Want to become more confident? This show is for you. Learn tips for intimacy, dating, relationships, sex, people pleasing, boundaries, and more so you can confidently be your authentic self. Join Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they) and LGBTQIA+ guests. Visit coachalexray.com to learn more.
Episodes
131 episodes
Being Vulnerable and Owning Your Life w/ MaShawn Jones
In this bonus episode, my client MaShawn shares how he's found more confidence through vulnerability.MaShawn works in the military and is also starting a personal image consulting business. Today you'll get to hear how MaShawn has moved...
Suicide and My Mental Health Journey
Happy Pride month!Today, I want to share with you my own journey. I'm sharing it with you because I want you to understand no matter how dark, how empty, or how hopeless you feel, there's opportunity for you.I will warn you ahea...
Mastering Authentic Connection w/ Keila J. Brown
In this bonus episode, my client Keila J shares how she's mastered personal, professional and romantic connection.Keila is a screen writer, actor, and professional match maker. All of those requires the ability to accept rejection. Today...
Loving Your Inner Bitch
Some might call it an inner critic, but this isn't Rotten Tomatoes.This is life, and mine can be a real bitch!Today we're looking at how that bitchy inner voice comes out to attack ourselves and others.Instead of shuttin...
Realizing “I Am Wonderful” w/ Corey Spade
In this bonus episode, back by popular demand, my friend and past client, Corey Spade joins us!Corey is back to give you an update since his first episode which has been the most popular guest episode I've ever done. (You can find that ...
Drinking
In today’s episode, I help you take a look at what you want your relationship to be with alcohol and give you simple steps to making that shift.Get full show notes and more info here.
Lesbian In Tech w/ Raphaela Cassandra
In this bonus episode, my client Raphaela shares her story of how she had to face the question 'who am I without achievement?' A lot of her identity was wrapped up in success at work, school, and fitness.Through one of the roughest patc...
7 Stages of Confidence
There are 7 stages of confidence that we all go through.In today's episode, you'll learn how to identify what stage you're in and navigate from each one to the next.Get full show notes and more info
Influencer to Mental Health Advocate w/ Diego Downtown
In this bonus episode, you'll get to meet Diego Gonzalez-Zuniga, the man behind Diego Downtown and host of Your Insecurity Is Showing on IGTV.Diego gives us insight into how...
Cognitive Dissonance
Last week we talked about getting rid of negative thoughts. This week I'm going to share with you the most difficult obstacle you'll encounter in the process: cognitive dissonance.Cognitive dissonance is a mental clash. It's holding two...
The Accidental Gay Historian w/ Mike Balaban
In this bonus episode, you'll get to meet Mike Balaban, the accidental gay historian, and host of the BAMMER and Me podcast.Mike share's his perspective as a...
Getting Rid of Negative Thoughts
Have you ever tried to use mantras to change your thinking? How about positive quotes online? What about daily affirmation apps? If they aren't working for you, it's not your fault.In today's episode, I'll give you the exact process to ...
Gay and Christian w/ Drummond Culture
In this bonus episode, you'll get to meet Drummond Culture, a fellow life coach and host of Positive Talk on IGTV.Drummond share's his story of growing up gay in a conserv...
Imposter Syndrome
Today we're talking about the hot topic Imposter Syndrome.I used to have severe imposter syndrome, especially when it came to fitness (then later I became a coach, pretty ironic).But if you understand where identity comes from, ...
The People's Lesbian w/ Lizzy Lesbiana
In this bonus episode you'll get to meet Lizzy Lesbiana host of The People’s Lesbian podcast.Lizzy share's her story of starting the podcast even when s...
My Suicide Race w/ Mark Turnipseed
Mark is an Author, Model, Coach and Speaker who advocates for mental health and addiction recovery.Today Mark shares about his mental health journey, losing all confidence in himself, addiction to drugs and alcohol, attempting suicide, ...
The Sexican Dreamer w/ Aerik Pachicano
In this bonus episode you'll get to meet Aerik Pachicano an Actor, Writer, Comedian and YouTuber.Aerik share's his own story of following his dream career even when others have doubted him since second grade.He's an inspiration an...
Rejection
Rejection is the number one thing that holds you back from becoming confident.And half of all rejection is completely within your power to control.In today's episode, I share with you exactly how to overcome that rejection so yo...
Dating
I’ve had many dating experiences that ended terribly with broken hearts and hostile feelings on both sides.But dating doesn’t have to be that way!In this episode, I’m going to answer 4 very important dating questions that you mu...
Going From "I'm Garbage" To True Self Love w/ Corey Spade - From The Archives
Today I have a special guest with me.In this episode Corey shares about:Coming back from hitting rock bottomTurning around self loathingOvercoming body shameBeing a gay kid growing up in a conservat...
Turning Shame Into Confidence w/ Chloie Jönsson
Today I am honored to have Chloie Jönsson on the podcast.Chloie is a Transwomxn who's had a tremendous impact on the world of fitness.Chloie has been open on social media about her past additions which she had used to cope with ...
Fake vs Real Confidence
Have you ever found yourself being fake vulnerable?Where you share something that sounds vulnerable, but really you have a plan of action to handle it already.If you’ve caught yourself doing this, that’s ok! It is just part of the...
Finding Your Purpose
In this episode you’ll learn how to find your purpose.We are trained to think that purpose is something we can find.But purpose isn’t a treasure to be discovered.And achievements also are not your purpose.You’ll know...