The Queer Confidence Podcast
Want to become more confident? This show is for you. Learn tips for intimacy, dating, relationships, sex, people pleasing, boundaries, and more so you can confidently be your authentic self. Join Coach Alex Ray (he/she/they) and LGBTQIA+ guests. Visit coachalexray.com to learn more.
Episodes
131 episodes
Setting Boundaries With Your Family
The holiday season is upon us. And with it, the stress of family dynamics.So let’s talk about it.I’ve got a framework that’ll make it much easier for you to set boundaries.Let’s make that difficult conversation with mom, da...
Off Stage: The Dilemma Between Authenticity and Social Media
Weather you're using social media to connect with people or as a way to make money, it's still requires you to put in labor.So how is this free labor affecting your overall "work load"?Can you spend time online without getting c...
Setting Boundaries with your Audience w/ Chelsea Dickinson
Today you get to meet my friend Chelsea Dickinson aka The Sabotage Queen.Every time we’ve FaceTimed we said, “why the heck did we not record this? People would PAY to listen in on our conversations! This shit is gold.”Sooooo now y...
Being a Gogo Boy
Today we’re going to wrap up this series on sex work. I’m going to talk about a particular experience I had while Gogo dancing. (So being a gogo boy isn’t exactly sex work but it’s still in the erotic industry, and the lesson...
Erotic Shame Healing w/ Nico Nova
I’ve got another episode for you from the porn industry. This time I talked to Nico Nova, a model with a mission. I can’t wait for you to meet him.Nico understands that humans have a complicated relationship with thems...
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Creating Porn & U=U w/ Kayden Gray
This week I have another episode in our gay porn series.This time with performer and creator Kaden Gray.We got to talk about so much, from gender identity to shame and sex to therapy.Kaden is a powerful creator and an amazi...
Self Pleasure w/ Coach Nic Reveles
We are in the middle of our gay porn series on the podcast, and this week I talked with Coach Nic.He is a Certified Somatic Sex Educator, Sexological Bodyworker and soooo much more.He’s an ex-priest who helps indiv...
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Gay Porn w/ Davey Wavey
Today is the beginning of a brand new series where I’m taking you behind the scenes of the gay porn industry.You heard me right.This week we kick off with Davey Wavey.You may remember him from his da...
Your Inner Voices
I want to introduce you to a concept that has been working really well for me and my clients lately.It’s a way to work with all the characters in your head, especially the ones you have shamed yourself for having (like your inner...
The Secret About Rock Bottom
This week it’s time to get real. Lots of us have been in that slow slide down towards a rock bottom, sometimes for years (and years…) while a part of us watches and wonders if this is all we get. Today I’m going to talk abou...
Decisions & Disappointment
This week’s podcast is about the rubber hitting the road. In some ways, kinda literally! I keep talking about having your own back, so let’s talk about one way that can, and did, happen in my life.I really love to support my ...
Tips For Finding Your Ideal Relationship
Today is a great day to talk about relationships. In the movies and on TV, they all seem to just happen, as if by magic. Two people in the right spot at the right time? Boom! Done!There isn’t much we see, growing up or ...
The Discomfort of Calm
This week let’s be in the moment. I’ve got a moment of calm for you, and a moment on the relationship between discomfort and what’s happening around us. When we’re in the uncomfortable moments, all we want is calm and quiet.&...
Graphic Stories of my Sex Life
I was thinking about you and about how s*x is one of the hardest (pun intended?) places to really feel confident. So I decided to tell you 3 totally embarrassing stories about my s*x life.I wanted you to know that I’m out here liv...
Creating a safe space non-performatively w/ Simone Seol pt. 2
I’m so pleased to introduce you to my amazing friend and colleague Simone Seol!She is a marketing coach who walks the walk. And we had such a fun (and slightly anxiety inducing) conversation about the ways we’ve f***ed up and lea...
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Creating a safe space non-performatively w/ Simone Seol
I’m so pleased to introduce you to my amazing friend and colleague Simone Seol!She is a marketing coach who walks the walk. And we had such a fun (and slightly anxiety inducing) conversation about the ways we’ve f***ed up and lea...
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Entrepreneurship & Sales w/ Jacy Tackett
I have an amazing human to introduce you to this week. My client, coach colleague, academic and fellow ADHDer, Jacy Tackett. We started with hypocrisy, detoured through philosophy, got a little caught up with duality ...
Being an effective hypocrite w/ Jacy Tackett
I have an amazing human to introduce you to this week. My client, coach colleague, academic and fellow ADHDer, Jacy Tackett. We started with hypocrisy, detoured through philosophy, got a little caught up with duality in coach...
The Breakup
I have some story time for you this week. We are headed back in time as we look at how this thing called relationship works, or doesn’t!The title is a giveaway so let’s cut to the chase, we broke up, of course. Let’s chat ab...
The Big Move (Part 5)
Here we go! It’s time for the conclusion to The Big Move. Let’s wrap this up with a glittery bow and some reflection on shaking up my life, and yours.I know it feels far away to just jump off the board into the deep end and turn yo...
The Big Move (Part 4)
In this episode we're back to exploring my cross-country move. This week I share the last lesson from the road and a surprising twist on my relationship with my parents. If you feel pressured to always be on social media, you’re g...
The Old Gays
What an episode I have for you! Today we get stories, wisdom and way too much fun with The Old Gays. Oh, and blindfolds, lots of blindfolds!They share so much, they’ve got stories from creating The Old Gays, to coming out and...
Celebrating Queerness with my Clients
Today I want to celebrate with you the diversity of LGBTQIA+ identities in our beautiful community. I’ve got 6 guests, each with a unique story to share about finding and becoming themselves.This episode was amazing to record, each story...
